Here are a few tips in how to approach the subject of meeting for a first time in the real world.
One of the major reasons why first dates fail to happen is because the people involved make the mistake of not planning for them. It may be that they are worried about offending the other person, or perhaps they may feel that a “make it up as I go along” attitude will work well in the long run.
Unfortunately, this approach will often fail simply because most people need a plan of action- something to react to, either favorably or unfavorably. Instead of saying something vague like “We should meet for a ride sometime? or “Feel like meeting for a biker rally?” try saying something like this: “There’s a great biker bar on Stevens Street- about halfway between the two of us.
How about a riding meet there next Friday for lunch?” By being specific, you can provide your date with concrete things to change, reject, or accept. They can respond with anything from “No, I’m sorry, but I got plans on Friday- would Sunday work better for you?” Or “I’ve been to that biker bar- the service is not perfect. What about that restaurant across the street?” Of course, they could just as easily accept.
There is another reason to be specific in your time and place of meeting. As we know, safety is always a concern, especially when you are meeting some biker guy for the first time. By setting up a specific time and meeting place, especially a few days early, both you and your date can check out the place prior to the appointed time if so desired. Also, it gives both of you a chance to inform trusted individuals where you are going, and when you’ll probably be back.